It has been a while since you’ve noticed all the signs that maybe a potential break up is knocking on your door.You have been walking on a rocky ground for a quite some time,but you didn’t have the courage to admit it to yourself.
Your gut is telling you that the END is inevitable.The signs were speaking loud and clearly to you,but you still didn’t have the courage to accept them.What were the sings?
You Are No Longer Of Your Partner’s Interest
How have you noticed this? Well,I suppose the questions like “How was your day honey?” were missing for quite a while, and you’ve stared wondering if your partner is into you anymore? If your partner doesn’t seems to even care for asking, it is clear sign that you should initiate at least honest conversation about the issue.
Either your partner have personal job problems or… may be it is about the two of you. Do the talk.Communicating in mature and honest manner is always the best. If there are small issues to resolve,OK then. If not,well…
No Intimacy At All
When was the last time you have been intimate? Can’t remember ha? A lack of intimacy usually implies so much more than only having sex.
A lack of intimacy can be a lack of open communication about mutual feelings. Concealing feelings from each other is certainly a breakdown of trust that you have shared,which makes it less likely that your partner will want to open up to you again.
You Can Easily Predict A Break Up Since You Had One Earlier
You’ve had earlier one break up. And you went counseling, and you spent hours and hours and loads of money to make your relationship work. It went OK for a while and…here comes the bad gut feeling again.
If that gut feeling is telling you that something is wrong, getting back together without fixing the underlying problem in first place is unlikely to make a space for a happy ending.
Usually, the partner who was “dumped” is more resentful to the one who did the “dumping”. These emotional wounds are difficult to heal.
No Wish For Deeper Commitment
When one partner notices that the other one is not putting their whole being into the relationship,usually break up is initiated. But,when kids enter the picture and are involved, the situation is getting much harder – especially for the youngsters. A lot of emotional damage is on the way.
Some couples decide to stay in a relationship without future for reasons like: finance,time spent together,having business built up together or emotional breakdown of their kids(or themselves). The reasons vary from case to case.
In a study for romantic relationship breakups, it was discovered that it could be predicted which couples would break up based on how much commitment, love and inclusion were present in the relationship. The research also found that social network support was also a strong predictor of relationship strength.
You’ve Had A Childhood With Lack Of Love
If you’ve had a childhood without enough love,for sure it will have significant impact in your love life. If you felt insecure and abandoned as a child, it is more likely that you will seek such kind of relationship,where you will feel secure. And, if your partner can’t live up to your expectations, then,the relationship is doomed to fail.
For sure there are certain issues that you should resolve prior letting yourself into any relationship. No one should be substitute for something you didn’t have as a child. It is bad for you and for your future partner to be.
Everyone is bearing on shoulders some childhood issues, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t try solving them. If you need help,you can always choose to see a therapist. There is nothing shameful about that.
However we put it, relationship goes both ways. Each partner should work on themselves , so they can bring the best of them into the relationship.
Still, if any salvation possibility went to a brick wall, maybe it is time you should consider other options.
To move on.