Nowadays, it is so difficult to maintain a healthy relationship.Why? Because there are certain”rules”that are forgotten throughout the relationship journey.
It might help us understand better ourselves and the other side, if we simply analyze these so called “relationship rules” and try to apply them .What are they?
Today,honesty is a forgotten term.It is almost lost. And its value as well.Shameful. But,still,you should at least try to be honest about everything,since honesty keeps the bond stronger.Through honesty trust is gained.
And the most important thing in a relationship -TRUST.
If you do not learn how to compromise-forget then everything.Making a compromise is a complex thing. It is all about balance.You can not have things “your way” all the time.You will became a tough load to your partner and you’ll create only bad vibes in between.
Both partners in a relationship must understand that necessity of compromise and make small sacrifices,so you can make it work.
You have to “feel” your partner and have the sense when you should back up about certain things.Without compromise,you sentence your relationship to a break down.
An argument in small doses is healthy thing to do.You put things out on the open, so you can discuss the problem,understand it and try to resolve it.
If an argument is about to rise to it’s peak,at least do it cold headed, since hot headed argument will bring nothing good for both of partners. Only bad mood. And disappointment.
Do not try to change your partner.Would like someone to pressure you and clay you they way that they want you to be? It will bring nothing but disaster.
You cannot fix no one.You can fix only yourselves.Or you can help the other side to make improvements about themselves.
You know the saying: “Because of you I have become a better person”?
Well ,it is so true. By your actions, you can make someone to change by their own will,not yours. Remember that.
In a relationship,both partners need to know how to listen.REALLY LISTEN.
There is nothing more meaningful or memorable than mentioning something that your partner once said.
It brings good vibes to the opposite side that you are 100% IN.
Express Your Love
Do not hold your emotions within. Emotions are given to us by nature to be expressed in so many ways. Just do it. But,do not show it with money spent. Money doesn’t show love .
Gestures show love. True love has no price!
Valuation Of Interests
It is perfectly normal that both partners have different interests. Some have match in their interests,some don’t. Either case,you should value each other interests and support them. Do not withhold no one back. Mutual support brings the relationship to a more solid ground.
Continue Of Doing Things You Like
What does this mean? Do not stop doing things you used to do in the beginning of the relationship. Well,do not do the “bad “things. This means that if you have a girl/or boy night-then do it. If you have a hobby that fulfills you – just continue.
If you stop doing things that brought pleasure in your life (hanging around with friends ,or so),it will just make you feel miserable. And on a long run – it will bring you both no good.
Financial awareness is also a big issue in a normal,well built,mature relationship.You should openly discuss your present and future plans, so you can join and direct your finances to the right way.
Talk openly,plan out loud and act together. It will set the maturity of the relationship to a higher level.
There Is No Perfection
Nobody is perfect. Everyone has flaws. Everyone makes mistakes. Still,acknowledging your own flaws, makes you a reasonable human being.
When you try to polish yourself, trying to become a better person and a better partner to be,it only shows your inner growth and mature side of your personality.
GOOD! Keep on improving!
Dealing With Tough Periods
If the relationship is strong and going somewhere, you should bring up the tough stuff. If you’re falling in love but have some concerns, bring them up sooner rather than later.
It’s difficult to have serious conversations ,but it’s better to discover deal breakers earlier on.
Of course,it is healthy to have friends and long conversations with them.But,do not discuss all the things from your relationship with them. Your privacy is just yours. The term defines it-PRIVACY!.
Your life is no one business but yours,so keep it that way.
Respect the word-Privacy!
Building a relationship and maintaining it is a subject of constant battles.It is a great deal of constant learning lessons that will bring you to a path, filled with joy and happiness.
If you want happiness,then talk,listen,resolve,show emotions and understanding.These are all necessary for building fruitful and long term relationship!
Enjoy the ride!