Relationship takes time and if couples don’t put themselves 100 % in it – they usually split. Falling in love is easy but keeping it on, and improving it – is something else.
After a while, couples take each other for granted and that’s the starting point of walking to a downhill road.
Love requires presence, commitment and permanent relation building and if couples don’t try to improve it- love just ends.
What are the main reasons that makes couples fall out of love?
At the beginning, each relationship starts with abundance of communication. There is a lot to share, so new time couples can know each other better.
Each beginning is full of fun and much laughter.
But after sometime, conversations start to fade away and that is a certain sign that you need to start of making improvements.
If criticism, sarcasm, defensiveness and silent treatment become everyday issues, you have to reconsider your relationship in total.
Finding mutual line of good communication will drive you out of this condition.
But if you don’t relate to the issue, communication will shut down – there will be no progress of any kind.
2.Taking Each Other For Granted
After some time, appreciation fades away and taking each other for granted starts to get in the middle.
Usually one involved party is more aware of the current situation than the other one, and it usually is the partner that has become an invisible one.
Making love has become and ancient history and you have stopped to look for each other, or have lost the need for one another.
Your relationship started to look like you are more like roommates than a couple.
A small distance is healthy on short-term period since it will make you recognize the importance of your partner and it can possibly re-lite the beginning sparkles.
But, it takes time and a lot of work.
3.When Insecurity Is Your Roommate
When invisibility becomes an issue, insecurity comes along as its best buddy.
When initial love starts to fade its intensity, the truth about who you are is starting to show its face. Suddenly insecurity emerges and jealousy begins to show without an invitation.
Observing partners how they behave with others, doesn’t necessary have to bring up the “cheating issue” along.
The beginner feeling of infatuation is missing, and that is why usually one of the partners feels abandoned, which is major point when inner insecurity is passed on to the other. Soon, it will become a constant battle of self-worth prove.
The healthiest way to pass this is open communication without any criticism involved.
Over time, people naturally change and become more of what they really are.
If repression was a matter, when changes occur and that lost genuine inner YOU emerges finding its own way to be finally expressed, you might unfortunately face some issues.
Changes are healthy, and accepting the partner of who he/she is – should be put into consideration for sure. Supporting interests for new business, new or old forgotten hobbies, or any other matter – is a healthy step forward.
Changes are natural and they suppose to happen. They should be accepted and followed, otherwise boredom will become your permanent king.
5. What Happened To The Mutual Attraction
Why suddenly attraction has gone away?
Is it because you’ve lost the ability to have fun, or routine has killed the attraction?
Getting into a routine is one of the main reasons boredom inhabits your home. There are no more date nights or movie nights, or even having friends over.
If this is the case, major reconstruction needs to be done.
6. Holding On To Past
Nothing kills relationship like past resentful events can.
Holding on to them and bringing them over and over as issues, will only lead to major arguments. We all know how “forgive” and “forget” are difficult words to be implemented, but it surely must be tried.
If these obstacles can’t be avoid in any case, then, your relation is doomed to a major failure. No one wants to be bragged about past events constantly.
Either let go or move on.
7. Being Dishonest
Dishonesty – like cheating and keeping secrets, are common cause for relationships breakdown. Trust can be easily destroyed and never EVER regained.
Having a double life, secret bank account, infidelity or other vise undiscovered, can hurt your relations tremendously.
This only shows a lack of love and respect in general.
At least admit your vises and decide if you will work on them, or you’ll split eventually if no compromise is to be made.
8. No Compromise
Since life itself need much compromising, what else to say about relationships?
Learning to compromise in everyday situations is great skill to have and it is simply a must. If you don’t learn how to compromise, you are going to get hurt eventually.
This stands for relationships too.
If no one wants to compromise during any arguments or many other situations, it is definitely lack of love and mutual respect.
Simply, there will be no peace without compromising learned.
9. Was Your Love A Fairy Tale
Love is blind.
The world most known expression full of truth. No one sees any flaws in the other at the beginning.
Love, lust and infatuation are best friends. And overtime, when the curtains will fall down, the true face of love will emerge.
Glorifying your partner made you think you’ve found your prince/princess from a fairy tale, that (let’s be honest) in real life actually doesn’t exist.
At some point, both partners are starting to realize they weren’t for each other at first place.
They just have grown out of the “fairy tale” image they preserved.
Unfortunately – Reality bites.
10. Was Your Love REAL Love
Lust can be sometimes mistaken for love, and it depends on how you’ve started your relationship.
Why do we say this?
Because pure desire can be mistaken for true love.
The strength and quality of love can be shown throughout difficult times in life, as well in parenthood and many other life situations.
Love defined as timeless can only exist if true commitment and endurance are involved.
Difficult times are major test for measuring the strength of your love.
Either you’ll fail – either you’ll succeed.
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