As They Age…Quality Life Is Gone…
Having aging parents is something that we’ll all face at certain point in our life. Watching them getting older and how they don’t have the quality life they used to have – is really hurtful. We all are going to get there – eventually.
It is even worse when one of your parents has passed away, leaving the other one to struggle and manage through life. It isn’t easy to go on by themselves – alone. This kind of awareness is a scary thing to manage…
When I see elderly people, sadness strikes me almost instantly. I recognize myself in them at certain point of life. All the wishes and hopes that went through life…some fulfilled and some of them not…
We all struggle each day to earn more money, to take care of our kids, to stay in touch with our families and friends and all of that is happening so fast, that we simply can’t find enough time for everything. Yes, that is modern living today. Unfortunately.
Always in a hurry, while life is silently passing by. Our kids will grow up and suddenly we will play the main role in this topic that I am writing about. As we all are getting older, our parent-child roles will un-noticely switch…
How to help elders to improve their quality life more?
1.Try Walking In Their Shoes
Aging isn’t easy- lets admit. You are loosing your vitality, friends, members of family and you are starting being aware of the life cycle itself. We all know to where we are going to. It isn’t easy to digest that we are just passing through on this Earth, trying to polish and uplift our soul, mind and awareness.
When you reach certain age in life, these thoughts just comes naturally and un-invited. And you understand elders more…
And of course, when aged, our parents simply can’t have the quality life they used to have. Reflexes are gone, hearing as well, they are less able to drive their cars…ageing simply -sucks!
2.Enable To Make Decisions On Their Own
There are times when they can’t think rationally but they can’t admit that. They still want to make their own decisions not wanting to be treated as they are little kids-even though their actions can sometimes be similar to that.
Don’t treat them as children – they hate it. Deep within they know it is true – but letting it out in the open is a whole different story to tell.
3.You Should Learn New Skills- Become A Handymen
You will become a handymen for every single household items. Their reflexes are slowly vanishing as well as their repairment skills, and you will become the most contacted person for household troubles. Don’t get all anxious about it – always remember they were always there for you or at least have been at the time.
Look around the house and see if there are some safety issues you need to resolve before someone gets hurt. Make them a list of emergency numbers they need to have – just in case.
4.Make Them Become More Physically Active
We all know that physical activity is half the health we need. The other half is well planned “diet” and less stress in life. As they are getting older their reflexes starts to melt and that is why we need to make them understand that physical activity is something they really need. It will prolong their quality life they used to have and make them more movable.
They have to get out from their sofas where they seat all day and watch TV. They will have much alleviated spirit which will remove early signs of depression they might have. Physical activity will provide them with much endurance, balance and strength required.
Simple walking every day for at least an hour – will be of great benefit for them.
5.Get Them Socialized Again
As people get older, they simply loose interest in social gatherings. They find their own comfort zone and no one can move them out from there. They must understand that socializing is a healthy thing to do, so feelings of loneliness and abandon will be at least at lower rate.
Make them break their isolation patterns and re-apply in life activities all over again. If they are not in position to be as much active, there are always ways to get out and have some fun.
There are varieties of offers they can take and do with their partners, grandchildren or friends. Let them understand that they can still go to parks, museums, theaters or organized community services for elderly people where they can socialize.
6.Pay More Regular Visits To Them
Yes, you’ve made a life of your own and you simply can’t find enough time to visit them. Still, it shouldn’t be an excuse. If you live in same town, you should visit them more regularly, but if you live in different cities or states, at least call them to check more regularly. Do you know how that visiting and one phone call makes all the difference?
They know that you care for them as much as they do for you. At least they’ve made much sacrifice to make you a decent and honest human being you are today. And you should thank them for that eternally.
7.When Memory Problems Arrive
With old age comes all sorts of problems. Loosing hearing and short term memory are one of many issues that will follow.
How to help them? Create a memory notebook with photos, events, names of people so you can help them recall distance memory buried within. It is a great memory tool and you’ll create new type of bonding with your parents.
Loneliness seems to be a key factor in ageing process. As folks age, they see the real importance of family more than ever before. They need to have them near by, so fulfillment in their soul will be present. It has been shown that loneliness alleviates high blood pressure which at old age can be lethal.
As much as you are busy scheduled person, don’t forget your parents- they gave you life and you should appreciate that at most.
Find a time loop to spend more quality time with them since our presence on this planet is with limited time. Everything has an expiry date – even us…
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