Life is filled with all sorts of emotional bumps, bruises, illnesses, and strains. Many of us has experienced different types of emotional pain. Experiences such as rejection, loss, and failure, hurt so much and you wonder how you can overcome the psychological injuries these can create.
You have to find a way to overcome the emotional pain and try move on in your life.
Injured By Rejection
Whether a friend stops returning your calls, a lover breaks up with you, someone unfriends you on Facebook, or your work buddies snub you, even if unintentionally, it hurts.
You may become angry at them, yourself, or the world in general. Even if the rejection is a slight one, it can be enough to cause you question your self-worth.The question is what to do?
- don’t accept self-criticism
- rebuild your self-worth by focusing on your strengths
- find other people to fill the void
The sooner you let go of painful rejections, the better off your mental health will be.
Acknowledge The Pain
When you think deeply of something over a past hurt, the memories you replay in your mind only become increasingly distressing and cause more anger.Stop doing that!
The first step for healing emotional pain is awareness – being willing to become fully aware of the pain itself.
Period Of Loneliness
When you are emotionally hurt,the presence of loneliness is unavoidable.People can become or remain lonely through sheer atrophy.The longer you go without relating closely to others, the more difficult it becomes to reestablish contact with new people, or even get back in touch with the old friends you’ve drifted away from.
Just do the opposite.
In this period of loneliness you will become closer to yourself, within.You can reestablish your contacts or make new ones.It will bring new life energy within you.
Self motivation comes along with it and new live force will begin to pour out from you.Your self esteem will rise again. Hallelujah!
We all have unique predispositions. Some of us are more physically oriented, while others are more mentally or emotionally oriented.
You may experience your first awareness of emotional pain as an uncomfortable physical sensation, such as tightness. Or it could be mental confusion and obsession about a subject. Or you could feel emotionally overwhelmed, like being pulled into a tidal wave that has you spinning and not knowing which end is up.
You may be able to determine the quality of the feeling as rage, sadness, despair, etc. If you do characterize it as a specific emotion, then for our purposes here, for just right now, let go of that description or definition.
Let the energy just be here, nameless, undefined.
If you can’t seem to find yourself motivated because of several reasons, take a deep breath and try to motivate yourself with these simple yet effective tips:
- Close your eyes, and visualize yourself reaching your goals
- Try something new today
- Take a walk in a park, and let nature reset your mind
- Make a to-do list. You’ll feel encouraged as you cross off items.
- Get more sleep. Sleep deprivation could be making you less motivated.
- Drink coffee for a quick jolt
- Start exercising, and you’ll feel like yourself
- Take a small step. You don’t have to immediately immerse yourself in the project and see it until completion right away. Just make baby steps, and take it one day at a time.
- Wake yourself up from your slump with a cold shower
- Have a reward system, so you’ll have something to look forward to
- When doing a task you don’t want to do, play energizing music to help you get through it
- Get the hard stuff done first thing in the morning. Once you’re done with the most challenging projects, you’ll be able to tackle the others with ease.
- Prepare early so you’re not in a rush. When you’re late all the time or feel rushed, this may stress you out and kill your motivation.
- Push yourself. Realize that getting things done means giving yourself a little push sometimes.
- Grow your willpower
- Make motivating yourself into a habit
- Set a deadline for a task to spur you to get it done before the time is up
- Doing too many things at once can overwhelm you, so drop the multitasking and focus on one thing at a time
- Get a friend to join you to make whatever you’re doing more enjoyable
- Clean up your home or your work space, and you’ll feel like you can get more done in a decluttered environment.
- Let go of your fears, and you may feel brave enough to take on challenging tasks
- Eat right. Treating your body well will put you in a better place mentally.
- Take a break to get some rest and recharge your mind
- Do something you enjoy when you first get up. Whether it be drinking hot chocolate while reading a chapter of a book you’re currently glued to or taking a hot shower, start your day off on a positive note.
- Share your goals with others. Being public about your goals will give you a sense of accountability, which may make you more inclined to get going.
- Focus on the positive instead of the negative,and you’ll feel more inclined to start new projects and take risks
- Bring light into your room. Open up your curtains. Let fresh air into your room by opening up windows if it’s not too cold and if it’s not polluted outside.
- Find out what it’ll take to get there. When you set a goal for yourself, begin by doing some research, and you’ll be done with the first step.
- Encourage others, and you’ll automatically start seeing encouragement from them in return. It’s a cycle of positivity!
- Don’t compare yourself with others or you’ll get discouraged. Compete against yourself.
- Have realistic expectations. Know yourself and how far you can go.
- Stay excited. Experiment and keep coming up with new tweaks so you won’t get board.
- If you fail, pick yourself up and keep going. Don’t let it derail you or cause you to lose confidence, which ends up affecting your motivation.
- Keep track with a journal. If you track your progress, you’ll be able to see it, which will help motivate you to continue or try even harder.
- Read biographies of the people you look up to for inspiration
- Listen to motivation stories from audio books
- Place motivational quotes around your home and work space. They can come in such forms as a sticky note on your memo board, a note taped to your mirror, or an inspiring quote on a coffee mug.
- It’ll help ground you and make you realize that you’re fortunate, so you should take the opportunity to make the most out of your life
- Dress to impress yourself. You’ll feel like you can get more things done when you’re putting your best foot forward.
- Write down a few things you’re grateful for. If you have a more positive mind-set, you’ll find yourself more motivated and looking forward to what’s in store for you.
- Reflect on the times when you worked hard and succeeded at your task
- Remind yourself that it’s better to try and fail or succeed than living with regrets
- Give yourself a pep talk, and tell yourself that you are awesome
- Drop the projects that you might not be totally committed to and focus on the ones you’re really passionate about
- Tell yourself that nothing worthwhile is ever easy
- Know that only you have the power to create your dreams and generate motivation
- Write down where you see yourself in five years, and stick that note in a visible place
- Set your alarm clock to remind you when it’s time to start on your task
- Find something you truly enjoy, and do it. Pick up a hobby or start a collection, and it’ll make you excited about life.