Relationship Things Not To Expose
Many of you have the habit to share relationship things with their friends, and then felt sorry for doing it in first place.
Because eventually, your partner will hear from others what you have done and can get offended, sometimes costing you a relationship.
If you don’t want this to happen, you better keep your relationship intimate moments intact, and don’t share them with the world.
Your privacy is just yours, and there’s no need people to know all about it.
Your Last Fight
Is there a need to share your last night fight with your friends?
If you expect they will understand it – you’re wrong.
If you need a shoulder to cry – sharing these intimate moments with others can do more harm than good for your relationship.
There’s a great possibility that you will get wrong advice, because only you and your partner know the reasons for the fight.
Instead of turning to friends, it’s always better to solve the issue with your partner ONLY, and give some credibility to him/her.
And if you still decide to share your version of the story, most of your friends might turn against your partner, and then the real trouble will come.
Your Sex Life
Why letting everyone to know what’s going on between the sheets?
It’s your intimacy, and not everybody needs to know when you’re not having sex, or how often you have it, all your sexual fantasies and all the juicy details of your intimate life.
It should be kept under the covers.
If you’re having problems in the bedroom, it is always better to discuss it with your partner, rather with your friends.
And in case you feel discomfort of talking these issues with your partner, it is good idea speak with a sexual or couple’s therapist who can help you figure out why you’re having these issues and how to try to solve them.
Your sex life shouldn’t become someone else’s fantasy – especially your friends.
It’s only yours, you know?
Things Told In Confidence
If your partner tells you about any private issues, whether their own or a family matters – you better keep your lips sealed!
Your partner trusts you and that’s why is confiding to you. But if you decide to talk this over with your friends, you may offend your partner and lose their trust – forever.
Nothing you do afterwards can reverse the damage, because trust is at the core of any relationship, and when it’s broken – it can be very difficult to restore.
If your partner confides about some of the skeletons in their closet, it’s REALLY important for you to maintain this in confidence, as if not, the secret revealed can ruin the trust build over the years, and possibly ruin your relationship.
Many people are sensitive and feel insecure about issues that make them look weak, especially when it comes to money, and this is something you need to avoid sharing with your friends.
Most certainly your partner wouldn’t like everybody to know about their financial difficulties, so, this is a line not to cross EVER.
Your financial details are no one else’s business but yours.
There can be certain things that your partner can’t probably do, even the simplest ones like mowing the lawn, repairing a broken chair, cooking lunch or helping the kids with their homework.
These actions stand for both partners.
But, if you make them feel like less of a man/woman by sharing this to your BFF and learn that you’ve done this in a coffee or a phone chat, there is a good chance they’ll start losing confidence and attraction towards you as a side effect.
Does everybody need to know these little stupid things?
By sharing these not-so-important relationship things with your friends, you minimize your partner presence in their eyes.
These minor character flaws can be blown out of proportion unnecessarily, and make both of you even more upset than it needs to.
Everybody has bad habits and insecurities, and it doesn’t mean you need to take a megaphone and spread the word, because you are also not perfect, you know?
Dislike Of Some Friends
It’s impossible for your partner to like all your friends, because everybody can have dis-likable habits: someone is loud, other one is too flirty, many are notorious gossipers – you name it.
But, if you plan for your partner to stick around for a while, keep silent on anything said about not being a fan of many from your crew.
If you decide to open your mouth about this, it will only hurt your friends feelings, therefore, you better accept that both of you have different tastes and needs in friend qualities, and if you don’t want to hang around to some of yours/their friends – then don’t.
No big deal.
All your e-mails, voicemails, text or explicit photos should be kept just to yourself. Don’t share your romantic or sexy moments with your friends.
Sexy talk is just for your eyes and ears only, and not the public ones.
Don’t offend your partner with exposing feelings and all your sexy urges with your friends – your intimacy is just yours.
The word private – means private.
When Cheating Is Involved
If this has happened in your relationship, keep your dirty laundry for yourself.
This is one of the relationship things that is highly sensitive, and if you spread the word among your friends, you will hear many different opinions, and you’ll get nothing but confusion.
Whether you decide to stay together or split, don’t leave that decision to your mom or your friends.
The decision is all yours whether the relationship is worth saving, repairing or ending.
You’re the only one who knows what’s best for you.
Surviving an affair is really painful experience, and it’s really important to involve a skilled therapist to help you heal from the broken trust and betrayal, rather than your friends.
You need someone qualified to talk to.
This ain’t an easy decision.
If you need someone to confide, make sure you’ve chosen the right person for the matter, or even better, tell your therapist what’s bothering you.
It is always better to have a professional opinion rather than your BFF’s one, if you want to avoid possible damage.
Relationship things shouldn’t be a matter of a public eye – they are just yours and keep them that way.
What’s private – should stay private.
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