…Being lonely today isn’t something new…
Back in the days when “lonely” was rare word to say…
Life was very simple back in the days. Loneliness wasn’t even an issue to talk about because it was rare someone to say: I am lonely.
If you lived in a small town before you’ve decided it was time to move on, then you remember that everyone was your neighbor and everybody knew everybody.Unfortunately,you rarely can find it these days.
In those days,loneliness wasn’t even really an issue(in rural towns especially),because everybody was so close with one another. It was a different collective consciousness back then.
Today,being lonely became every day subject to talk about…
School was the best playground for making real friendships. Being with people of the same age and sharing the similar interests helped laying down the foundation of making strong friendships.
But then, high school was over and college as well. Most of your friends started to go their own separate ways. They moved on to new cities and jobs, some to other countries. Some started their own families, and all those factors that helped make you as friends in the past,were slowly put under the rug.
And then…the feeling of loneliness started knocking on your door…
Taking your own path in your new life, made you a different person to be.Even though you were surrounded by so many new people, you still felt lonely in the sense that you didn’t have many people you could truly confide in. For most people, the only person they could truly confide in was their partner(if they had any) or their families.
So what to say…new pathways in each life made most of people to feel very lonely.They become socially isolated despite the huge number of people that were surrounding them. They do crave for true friendships like they used to have in the “old” days. We all DO! Where have they gone?
Have we changed? Have they changed? Has life changed?
Nowadays,more and more people work longer hours, and that is why most people don’t have the time or energy to socialize after coming back from work. It’s much easier to sit back, pop a soda or a beer and watch TV,or to stair in the computer again…”sleeping” on social networks, thinking you have a life.
Somehow,slowly but surely-advanced technology made us much lonelier than ever before.
In the old days, communication would’ve been done face to face. Today, most people use the advancements in technology for communication ,and all in an effort to distract themselves from their loneliness, rather than take their relationships with other people to higher levels…In person and LIVE!
The old sweet “charm” of the friendliness of a small town is lost in the big city, and it became harder to start over and making new friends all over again.
New Friends Again
People began to withdraw into their own world and when they tried to get out, it seemed impossible to find any friends because, everywhere they’ve looked, people seemed to be trapped in their own world, and everyone knows it’s not an easy try to jump into a well “established group”.
For sure, you will never find an “establishment” like you did in school days,where you had people of the same age around you 24/7.
The closest thing you have today is to meet people at work. But, that’s almost like shooting in a blank because the workplace is a diverse mix of people of all ages and different backgrounds. Not everyone will “fit” you.
But,you can always make an effort to try seeking new acquaintances on new places: by joining a dance class, gym class,or a fitness club,or by enrolling for tennis lessons.There are plenty of choices… and maybe you will start “rolling” new suitable friends again.
Be A Friend
You are mourning for your old school friendship? Well,you are not the only one.True friends are extremely hard to find again,since life has separated you already from the real ones.Talking over the phone or social networks just WON’T Do anymore.
Yet,it will take some time to build and cultivate new great friendships. But still, in that journey you must be honest,be truly a friend. Try dismantling that emptiness you are feeling by making a space for new people…true people to come into your life again.
There’s nothing like having a true friend that you can count on. It’s one of the best things in life.
You must have a meeting with yourself once and for all! Today,it seems that everybody is too afraid to make the first move.Why are people so scared? Has life become so dangerous?
Nevertheless…Don’t wait. Make the plans.Take the initiative. What’s the worst thing that can happen? If they say no several times, take a hike and look elsewhere.There are so many people on this Planet!
At The End
We, THE HUMANS – are social creatures. We were not meant to be isolated from one another and that is why WE should try to make connections face to face and not on social networks only.
True friends don’t grow there.Instead, go out and feel the persons aura in front of you. Feel the mutual energy emitted by long and meaningful conversations.It will do so much good for you! There is nothing much better than sitting somewhere with someone you care and sharing every day life situations together.
Believe me, NO social network can provide you with that AMAZING feeling of being alive and kicking!