History Of Wedding Anniversary
No one knows precisely when wedding anniversaries were first celebrated. But the tradition is believed to go back at least to the Middle Ages.
At that time in the Germanic regions of Europe, a husband crowned his wife with a silver wreath on the 25th anniversary of their wedding day. If the couple was fortunate to live long enough, the husband presented his wife a gold wreath on their 50th wedding anniversary.
The tradition of gold and silver wedding anniversaries has stuck nowadays, but still,there is now a long list of other named anniversaries to accompany them.
Each represents a different facet of the couple’s commitment, the stage their relationship is at and the number of years they have been together. By the beginning of the 20th century, an additional 6 anniversaries were celebrated – the 1st, 5th, 10th, 15th, 20th, and 75th year for a total of 8.
First Symbols Establishing
In 1922 Emily Post published Etiquette in which she identified symbolic gifts associated with each of these 8 milestone anniversaries: paper, wood, tin, crystal, china, silver, gold, and diamond.
15 years later, the Jewelers of America expanded her list to include materials for every one of the first 20 years of marriage and every 5 years thereafter.
Thus was born the traditional list of gifts and wedding anniversary meanings we have today.
Gifts To Symbolize Specific Anniversaries
To a certain extent, the reasons are clouded in mystery. However, it is generally believed that increasingly durable gifts were chosen for successive years to represent the progressive strengthening of the marriage relationship. As the years go by, the gifts increase in strength and worth from paper to diamond.
The first year of marriage is like a clean sheet of paper, a new beginning upon which to write your passage through the years together. Also like paper, it is fragile and can easily rip, not having yet been tried by the fires of adversity and the storms of life.
Like the interwoven fibers of cotton, the second year of marriage brings a couple closer together as their lives become increasingly intertwined. And as cotton is at the same time both strong and soft, the couple is learning how to be flexible and adapt to each other’s needs.
Leather has traditionally symbolized protection and covering.Our ancestors covered and protected themselves from the elements with the leather hides of animals. The bonds of marriage offer security and shelter as each partner takes care of the other. Now in its third year, the growing relationship is becoming a source of stability for the married couple.
Fruit & Flowers
During the fourth year of marriage, the budding relationship is beginning to blossom like a flower and ripen like fruit. Just as fruit nourishes the body and flowers the soul, so the deepening commitment and nurturing love of the couple brings refreshment and renewal to the marriage.
In ancient times, trees symbolized strength and wisdom. By the fifth year of marriage, the married couple is developing strong, deep roots like a venerable oak tree and is gaining insight and understanding from the mistakes and stumblings of the first five years. The pair has learned the most important lesson of all and the secret to a successful marriage: forgiveness.
As candy is to the taste, so romance is to marriage: sugary sweet. Celebrating the sixth year of marriage offers a time to rekindle the flames of love and passion that brought the two of you together. In older times, iron also symbolized the sixth anniversary. A strong and sturdy metal that brings good luck, may good fortune shine on your marriage all the days of your life.
Copper & Wool
Both copper and wool are known for producing heat. Therefore they represent warmth, comfort, safety, and security – necessary ingredients for a healthy and stable marriage. Reflect on these traits as you celebrate seven years together.
The gifts for wedding anniversaries tend to increase in substance and value over time as marriage itself should grow and strengthen over time. Bronze is stronger than both iron and copper, symbols of earlier years of marriage, because it is a blend of two metals (copper and tin). This mixture represents the union of two lives and the strength resulting from combining time with perseverance.
Pottery & Willow
A potter molds a lump of clay, shaping it on the potter’s wheel, and then fires it in the oven, creating something both rich and beautiful. So too, the marriage of two people is molded and shaped by choices and experiences, fired in the oven of adversity, and over time, something beautiful emerges.
Tin symbolizes preservation and longevity. At one time, food was stored in tin-plated iron cans. The tin protected the iron from rust and corrosion, preserving the food inside, potentially forever. A couple at the milestone anniversary of ten years has the ability to go the distance. Therefore, the tenth anniversary should be celebrated with special honor.
Steel is one of the strongest, most durable metals in the world, and therefore a fitting symbol for the eleventh anniversary. The cord binding the marriage together can no longer be easily broken, if it ever could. Strength and permanence define this milestone anniversary.
A couple that reaches twelve years of marriage has, undoubtedly, sailed through many rough waters and overcome a great many obstacles in their relationship. Having been strengthened by enduring difficulties, they now eagerly anticipate that the road ahead will be smooth as silk. It is time to enjoy the finer things in life. Celebrate this anniversary by taking time to indulge in luxury and pleasure.
As lace signifies refined beauty and elegance, so a marriage of thirteen years exemplifies polished and perfected love. The passage of time has created a delicate but strong object of beauty.
Ivory symbolizes purity and innocence. Rare and beautiful, this precious commodity signifies the integrity and fidelity of the marriage relationship and the extraordinary sense of commitment two people must have to make a marriage last fourteen years. Loyalty and devotion are qualities worthy of commemoration.
Crystal is the first truly expensive gift in the traditional anniversary list. The costliness of crystal is representative of the sacrifice and investment the couple has made to the marriage over the past fifteen years. Crystal also symbolizes clarity and transparency, reflecting the state of the couple’s relationship. They now know each other better than they know themselves.
China symbolizes the beautiful, elegant, and fragile nature of love. It is a reminder not to take your marriage for granted, but to continue to care for it so your love will flourish. In addition, just as China, although fragile, is also durable and long-lasting, so a twenty-year marriage has withstood the test of time.
Silver is one of the most precious metals known to man. It has always been prized the world over and considered very valuable. It is therefore an appropriate symbol for the twenty-fifth wedding anniversary. Like silver, may your marriage continue to shine in splendor and radiance all of your days as you grow old together.
Lying hidden deep inside the shell of an oyster is one of the most exquisite and treasured gems imaginable: the pearl. Symbolizing hidden beauty, the pearl reminds the maturing couple that true beauty comes from within and that what is most valuable is the shared experience of life with another.
Coral has often been called the “garden of the sea” because it covers the ocean floor. In ancient times it was considered sacred and believed to contain magical properties of protection from sickness and harm. It was also thought to represent the life-force due to its blood-red appearance. Like coral, loyalty and commitment are the lifeblood of a good marriage and love the shield that protects the union.
Symbolizing love and passion, the ruby is one of the most coveted gemstones of all. Within the heart of this stone is thought to lie a flame of fire that grows brighter with each passing year, just like the flame of a forty-year marriage.
For long ages the stone of royalty, the sapphire is the perfect gem to honor a forty-five year marriage. Two people together for this length of time are a shining example to all married couples. Theirs is a union worthy of admiration and respect.
Only one gift can rightly capture the crowning achievement of lifelong love: gold. Symbolizing prosperity, strength, and wisdom, it represents the essence of what a fifty-year marriage should be. Congratulations. Here’s to many more years of health and wedded bliss. Cheers!
Congratulations on making it 365 days as a newlywed couple. Everyday life is hectic and it is more important than ever to “smell the roses” and appreciate the person who is traveling through life with you.
You have a long road ahead of you and there will be ups and downs, but you can demonstrate your love each anniversary by giving a meaningful, traditional gift.
Paper is the traditional gift that represents the first anniversary. Writing a poem or love letter on high quality paper is a popular idea. Tickets to a play, concert or a sporting event are other options depending on what your spouse prefers. Artwork and scrapbooks are also clever gifts. Airplane tickets to a romantic destination definitely fulfill the paper gift requirement.
The modern gift for the 1st anniversary is a clock. Either a wall clock, desk clock or a watch will qualify. There are several different types of wall clocks: wooden, glass, mirror, stained glass, etc. Watches can be as varied as a diamond studded watch to a Mickey Mouse watch.
Gold is the traditional jewelry gift for the 1st anniversary but pearl is the gemstone and represents the 1st wedding anniversary.
Pearls are unique to other gems in that they are created inside of species such as oysters, mollusks and clams. There are two types of pearls, natural and cultured.
A natural pearl is the rarest of pearls. It is formed when an irritant makes its way into one of these species. It then begins to secrete what is commonly known as “mother of pearl” to produce the smooth, final product. A cultured pearl is the more common pearl found in jewelry.
A cultured pearl is formed when a human purposely places an irritant in one of the above species with the intent of “growing” a pearl. Pearls have long been a valued commodity and are a perfect gift to give on the 1st wedding anniversary.
A Pansy is a very small, delicate flower. This represents the 1st wedding anniversary perfectly. Like a pansy, the beginning of a marriage is very delicate. Once a firm foundation is established, it can grow. A potted plant of pansies is a very appropriate 1st anniversary gift.
To All Who Are Celebrating Wedding Anniversaries
May God bless you and give you the most beautiful things in life…love and cherish one another,respect and honor each other,take care of one another, so love can be everyday presence in your lives…just let your love touch ETERNITY cause LOVE is all that matters!