A New Beginning
In a life time, many people experience ending of relationships and seeking of beginning new ones. It isn’t so easy as it may seem to, but before you rush into a new one, you should figure out couple of things with yourself first. If you know yourself well, it shouldn’t be difficult.
If you are into a relationship and thinking the other person will have the ability to make you happy-you are so wrong. Happiness starts from within. With you.
If you want a healthy, long-lasting relationship, make sure you have developed these abilities before you start looking for that perfect match you are seeking all along.
Figure Out Your Self-worth
Knowing your worth means that in NO WAY you will settle for less than you deserve. You won’t be looking for someone to complete you because you know that you are a complete person. You have already figure it out(read: know), that you deserve the time, energy and dedication one relationship stands for.
Have Your Own Friends
It is very healthy to have your own group of friends to hang around while you are in relationship. Why? New relationships tend to take up a lot of time in the beginning, and a good group of friends will remind you to stay balanced and grounded.
Good friends will tell you if you aren’t acting like yourself when you turn the tracks occasionally. It is good to have such group of people for healthy get away, since both partners need some space from time to time. You’ll be freshen up anyway.
Our societies made us to have an unrealistic views of romance through all those romance movies and literature. Real relationships involve real people. Don’t forget that.
Being realistic in your expectations in a relationship is essential. In order to stay fresh, relationships take consistent effort from both parties. I bet you have already figure that out too!
Be Financial Independent
It is so necessary! Know your money management well. You must keep control of your own financial well-being. Being financially independent before you start a relationship will give you a great sense of security. You won’t have to depend on anyone else except yourself.
Always try to stay and keep independent!
Forget The Ex-past
Let go of the past. If you want a fresh start, you need to figure out how to “loose” your ex. Don’t drag him/her into a new relationship. You will not get a fresh clean emotional start you want. You might get into trap of comparing your new partner to your ex, which isn’t a good thing to do. You might ruin a beautiful romance ahead.
Don’t Be Dependent On Relationships
You don’t NEED to be in a relationship all the time. You can be perfectly okay by yourself for sometime. If you enter into a relationship thinking you need it, and not wanting it – you risk of becoming dependent on someone.Your relationship should be a beautiful addition to your already complete life. Don’t get stuck in the feeling that you NEED to be with someone all the time.
Learn To Be Alone
You have to feel comfortable in your own company before you let someone entering your life. It is good if you can enjoy yourself by being at home, with a cup of coffee in one hand and a book in another. It isn’t weird. Quite the opposite. It is good to have such health relationship with yourself. Even when you are in good relationship, you should have alone time.
Learn To Balance
When you enter into a new relationship – of course you’ll need to balance your way between your partner and your friends. And knowing stuff from your previous experiences – this shouldn’t be so difficult for you.
What Are You Looking For?
Before entering that new person into your life, you need to figure out what you really want and what are you looking for in a partner. Maybe you want to create a family, to travel, or to start both your own businesses…many things to consider. Stay clear on this issue and see what future brings ahead. Your future is NOW!
Learn The Word – Compromise
This is the hardest word for some couples. But if you really want to succeed, you need to learn the true meaning of it and it’s application. It is unavoidable. No matter how similar you are, there will be time when your opinions will differ on some specific subject. And when that happens, you will need to come to a point of compromising.
So, you better learn it!
Set your goals and make an action plan. It is the only way to achieve them. And, if the right partner comes along, he/she will help you achieve those goals. But, sometimes your aspirations can get lost in the mix of a new relationship happening.
Take Your Time
Each relationship needs time to evolve. So it will yours. Take small steps. Getting to know someone takes time. Go easy and let all happen in it’s own timing.
Don’t push things.If this is the one-time will tell!