When we are young,the only thing that matters to us, is playing and having fun. Just like it should be when you are a kid. You never think of any kind of loss.
You see life with your happy glasses on, thinking everything seems to be OK. As a youngsters,we even”do not notice”our parents,knowing that here they are,watching our backs all the time.We see them through our innocent childish eyes.
Not every child is fortunate of this. There are many children that lost their parents in so many ways: war,natural disasters,accidents,have been given to adoption,or have been neglected in so many ways.
Every experience that child have,leaves a deep mark into his pure,soft and fragile soul.
Time to grow. Time do define yourself. Time to find out who you deeply are. What are your wishes and goals. Where do you want to see yourself in life.
Maybe it’s early,but these are the beginnings of becoming a more mature person. Learning everyday valuable lessons. Some of them are hard and some are easy. But the hardest lessons should make someone a better person,they say.You know the old saying: no pain no gain.
It is of period of many ups and downs. Maybe, sometimes you will have the feeling of being lost. Not knowing which way to choose and boldly to step in.
Be happy of the tough lessons to be,even it might sounds silly.They are the best teachers -proven by many. By those lessons, you should rise up and become a person who slowly starts stepping into a grown people shoes.
Don’t expect everything to be delivered in a silver platter to you.You have to make some efforts to gain what you want. Otherwise,you won’t have appreciation of what you already have.
Being An Adult
Suppose that you are already accomplished person.You have a family, good job, good friends, financial secure and slowly you are facing the other, mature side of life.
Now you are starting to rethink all the choices that you have made so far.You start to think more deeply of the essence of life, yourself, family ,friends and most of all-your parents.
You will start facing life issues,that we are all mortals and we should appreciate life even better.If life have treated you well, and you have well played the cards that life has dealt for you, then you are a happy person.
Throughout this journey,our Peter Pan shadows have always been our parents.Watching over us,so we can have a better life,and become good and honest persons.
While we are young,we cannot understand what being a parent means until we become parents for ourselves. It doesn’t matter if we have our own children or we have adopted a child. The feeling of being a parent should be the same. Love is a unique feeling.
Then,everything falls into place.You start to understand that, while you were young, you took your parents for granted not thinking about their loss some day. But when it actually happens,well,yes,it hurts beyond words.
Yes I know,many do not have the luck of experiencing good parenting and maybe will disagree with everything written here,but,at the end,carrying the hurt within,will only make it worse. Keeping the bad feelings will only be obstacle for stepping further in life .Do not put the blame on anyone. It will only poison your soul. Forgive them. Set yourself free and try to move on.
I must say,don’t ever take your parents for granted. Loss will eventually come…sooner or later. Love them, be around them, include them in your everyday living,help them in any way you can.
Remember,they were there for you when you needed them when you were youngsters, and now they will need you. More than ever. Treat them gently and will love, so neither of you will regret the lost time.
Learn from the lessons that life has taught you.
Try to become closer to your children and even a better parent , so you will leave behind only good memories to your children to cherish …’cause loss is inevitable at the end…
Father,this is for you…I love you endlessly…