Dealing With Pre-Wedding Stress
Oh yes, the BIG day will arrive soon and you’ve started to notice the first signs of pre-wedding stress.
Who, what, when, will and how – are starting sentences containing the main dilemmas, but don’t worry as we got you covered on the topic!
Dealing with pre-wedding stress can be quite difficult to handle, as marriage anxiety knocks on your door already.
Of course there’s a lot of pressure to make your wedding look absolutely perfect.
After all, this should be once in a lifetime experience, so it’s perfectly understandable you want to be as perfect as possible.
Pre-wedding season can make you feel totally overwhelmed, and it’s understandable.
You are probably glued to Pinterest all day long trying to find the best possible ideas for decoration, wedding gown, wedding flowers etc.
Don’t worry, just follow these guidelines and make your life (wedding) easier.
Plan A and Plan B
One way to deal with pre-wedding stress is good organisation done on time.
Try to develop a reasonable strategy for the wedding that is manageable, and includes a backup plan in case something goes wrong.
Always have a plan B in case the first one is not achievable as you’ve expected to be. Give yourself enough time to get everything done by making step-by-step planning.
While you can plan everything pretty quickly, you don’t want to go to your wedding being in a burnout mode.
You also don’t want to wait until last minute to book your vendors and plan everything, because you’ll get to the point where vendors aren’t available, and you’ll get so upset saying “forget it”!
In order to avoid additional stress, write down all your plans so you can keep everything easy to follow up, and become stress-free.
Whether you’re tech-savvy (using digital calendars), or you are old-fashioned and like to write everything down manually, tracking the best wedding vendor and tasting appointments is an important step in keeping the event planning process stress-free as much as possible.
As soon you get scheduled with your vendor,write it down and share the message with your partner, so he won’t forget what’s planned.
It is important to break up everything down into steps, starting with your wedding “vision” and your budget, and start from there.
Do Some Math
One of the biggest causes of pre-wedding stress has always been money.
Make sure to discuss your budget with your partner, your parents and the future in-laws (in case they’re involved financially), and of course your wedding planner, so you can avoid any unnecessary surprises.
Almost every time wedding-related expenses can show up in most unexpected places, and if you want to avoid this, make sure you’re ready for anything without any surprises.
Make a list with all your wedding wishes and re-read it a couple of times if necessary.
Share the list with all wedding involved parties, and see where you stand with your pre-set wedding budget.
We know you want the wedding of your dreams, but you should make an effort to re-think few things if necessary, and cut costs which are not reasonable, while maintaining the original idea.
Wedding Planner or Help From Your Friends – Do Both If Needed!
If you can afford it, it’s a really good idea to hire a professional for the matter. A good wedding planner can be a real lifesaver.
Not only extra wedding stress will be taken off your plate, but they can also help you in making your dream wedding become a reality.
Your wedding planner will handle all issues and disagreements during the process.
They will also suggest a more realistic and extremely thorough budget, forecasting all possible expenses.
Even if you can’t pay your helper, it’s important to ask for help, cause you can’t do everything on your own.
You can also “bribe” some of your friends with pizza, and see how they’ll help you out with picking the right flowers, crafting Pinterest wedding decorations, or simply hanging out at post-reception to make sure everyone gets home safe and sound.
This is also a great opportunity to bond with your partner even more, as you will be dividing up the wedding workload.
Weddings are all about compromise.
It’s not just your day.
It’s a day for both of you, and should be designed to combine both your visions and wishes.
Love Yourself and Practice Self-care
Planning a wedding can be very stressful experience, and that’s why you need to take better care of yourself.
You need to preserve your sanity through the wedding process.
Make sure you create some off-wedding-plan-time, and enjoy other things as well.
De-focus for a while and beat up your pre-wedding stress.
You just have to.
Work The Stress Out
While it’s important not to unnecessarily stress too much about the wedding, incorporating workouts into your schedule is an important tool for combating wedding stress.
It’s very good idea for engaged couples to consider.
Going to a gym together.
It’s not only a great way to keep calm, but it also counts as free quality time to have without any wedding-side-interference.
Just you and your partner.
That’s all you need now.
Don’t Be Such A People Pleas-er and Learn To Say No(When Needed)
Despite your best efforts, you will not be able to please everyone. Just to know, this will be a hard lesson to learn, but most certainly it will be the most valuable one.
Small sacrifices are inevitable.
Maybe, there will be someone who will get offended by saying no to some suggestions, but hey, what the heck – it’s your wedding after all.
For example, if your aunt wants to bring her dogs to the wedding, you can easily refuse with a blink of an eye and not stress about it – at all.
Regardless many outside opinions, you need to weigh the cost-benefit of each decision.
Saying “No” to some (ridiculous) suggestions or other things, can “wave the water” a bit, but if your decision will bring you a piece of mind, less work or stress, then YES – it is totally worth considering.
Focus On The Prize
The wedding planning process can be overwhelming, but don’t let it distract you from the ultimate goal.
You’re about to marry the love of your life, which (hopefully) makes all of this wedding planning stress worth it.
Many stressful things can pop up before your wedding day, and that’s totally OK.
What’s most important is to remember that it’s also OK to need a break occasionally.
If you find yourself stressing out so much over the flowers you’re picking and stress melts you down, then STOP – take a minute, try to back away for a while, and remember that wedding planning should be fun and not stress.
Just focus on your top priorities, things you can control, and work from there.
No matter what decisions you’ll make, you will have an amazing wedding because the two of you have found each other, and you are about to start a new chapter in your life.
Don’t Be Such Perfectionist
Wedding day can be one of the most stressful days of your life.
Is it worth it?
All that matters is that you’re marrying the person you love, and everything else will follow.
Don’t put too much pressure on yourself that you need to have the best photos for Instagram or Facebook.
Wedding is not meant to be stressful and to have an expensive party with 700 of your “closest” friends.
Celebration of that moment will be fabulous regardless of what happens.
Don’t expect your reception will be a perfect one. There are almost always flaws to handle.
Forget about perfection.
Life and love are and will be messy, unpredictable, and sometimes disappointing, but that doesn’t make it any less wonderful.
Go ahead and create the life you have imagined with your partner.
Nothing else matters!
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