What Is A Psychopath
Before starting this subject, clearly the term psychopath has to be defined.
There is an evidence that points to the biological grounding for the uncaring nature of the psychopath. The brains of psychopaths have been found to have weak connections among the components of the brains emotional systems.
These disconnects are responsible for the psychopath’s inability to feel emotions deeply, or to connect with others on a deeper level.
What are the signs of psychopath?
- Shallow emotions
- Insincere speech
- Narrowing of attention
- Inability to plan the future
- Moral code and personal ethics
- Pathological lying
- Poor behavior controls
- Promiscuous sexual behavior
What If Your Boss Is One
I hope you are not that “lucky”.
There are plenty of bad bosses out there who make their employees unhappy, uncomfortable, and feeling miserable, but psychopathic bosses go well beyond that.
If you think your boss is a psychopath, don’t just observe him or her, but observe how she/he affects your coworkers and the workplace in general.
Unfortunately, I was a “lucky” one to have such female boss (she devil), and she was literally dragging the soul from her employees.
Not with given tasks – but with her abnormal behavior that everybody suffered from. She treated everybody as being her slaves.
The worst part was that everybody was keeping quiet because they needed the job, but some have started looking for a new one, since it was unbearable working environment to deal with anymore.
Everything became dis-functional, and her inner life was poisoning almost everybody.
Usually, psychopathic bosses can turn employees against each other(which was a case within my company), allowing the abuse to pile up.
Psychopathic bosses don’t care about their employees as fellow humans : you are a function- not a person. You are used as a thing to achieve their goals, and rewarding you for that – is pure science fiction.
If you’re feeling used and abused in any way by your boss, there is a chance that your fellow coworkers are feeling the same way.
In these circumstances, some individuals will bond together, while others will become “best buddies” to the big (wo)man boss, and that is the crucial point where you’ve got to watch your back from all angles.
Is your Boss Going To Change
To tell you truth, I’ve never heard of a such thing.
As they are unable to develop empathy, there is no way they can change. Unless something “hit” them in the head making them realize they need to work on themselves(which is rarely).
You may keep trying and trying to please your boss in every possible way, by performing all your tasks and duties well, but no matter how hard you try – you won’t get that recognition you would like to, and your boss will remain the same person.
You won’t get any applause for anything done.
Can you stand this situation?
Their psychopathic behavior may eventually lead to the destruction of the company itself, as it was case with mine.
It just fell apart.
Our psychopath she-boss, pushed us to our absolute limits until she achieved breaking down mentally some of the colleagues.
Dears, if you have such a boss, there will be no change – but you can!
Will The Situation Change
And you better admit it to yourself and start looking for another job. Pleasing them will be “good” just for a moment. Not pleasing them will be remembered – forever.
You are seen just as another object of fulfilling their momentarily needs, and after that they will ditch you as an old cloth.
They’ll need you until they do.
And that’s it.
They will emotionally and physically exhaust you like hell. And sooner you realize it is better to quit than suffer much longer, it will be better for you.
Fight for your psychological well-being because if you don’t, you’ll bare consequences like I did – until I found a new job.
You have to decide -whether you’ll stay or leave.
No Excuses Please!
I know it can be difficult to make such a decision if you really need the job, and even if you decide to stay – later you’ll be sorry you didn’t leave.
You can bear your bosses “torturing” behaviors for some time, but believe me, you’ll soon regret that you’ve decided to stay.
If your boss is consistently demeaning you, devaluing you, and destroying you in every possible way, that’s not a normal behavior.
And that is the boiling point where you’ll be fed up with everything, and you’ll start looking for a new job with the speed of light.
And you will find it.
Just keep trying.
If you work in a large company, and if you are able to put some distance between you and your psychopathic boss – that’s good.
But if you constantly have direct contact with your boss, it’s pretty much impossible to survive. Being exposed to a psychopath for a prolonged period of time can disorient you and confuse your values and your sense of self-worth, and I must say, that is what exactly happened to me as well.
I was asking myself – am I crazy or my boss?
Please value yourself more and don’t put up if you don’t need to. You can do it until your plan B succeeded-finding a new job!
Or, if you were not much of a spender, and you were saving money, calculate if you can afford some period without any job until you put yourself together, and rehab from this torturing boss you’ve had.
I needed such period.
And it felt SO good.
Don’t let anyone blow your self-esteem, especially coming from a psycho boss. If your boss is devaluing you, don’t do it to yourself too.
You are much better than that.
When To Quit
If you have been pushed to your absolute limits and your breaking point, and you feel that your mental health is at stake, you might need to quit much earlier regardless of whether you’ve found another job yet.
Your mental health is worth much more than the job you have.
If you need some time to think it over before you make your move – take your time. Put the puzzles together.
If you feel that you can’t survive in this work environment any longer, then you need to get out and preserve your sanity while you still can.
If you’re worried about finances being an issue, take a part-time job, until you find something that you would like to do permanently.
You have many options to choose from.
And when you go to another interview, arm with knowledge about signs of a psychopath, and analyse your future boss so you won’t put yourself in another agony – all over again…
Please share some of your experiences if you had any!
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