Guest post by Alex Moore
Every person wants to feel good, happy and well adjusted, but with so many job deadlines and family responsibilities – it seems quite impossible.
And the way modern life is shaped in general, sometimes we barely manage not to snap at everybody without caring about the consequences, and have power to make decisions.
The one thing that separates us from other animals and brought us where we are today as a species, is having an impulse-control capabilities.
There is more to gain by taking a step aside and calming down it by lashing at the first thing that you see.
Here are top four reasons why learning to control your disposition is worth it.
1.Improved Financial Well-Being
Impulsive buying, also called ‘’impulse purchasing’’, is an unplanned decision to acquire a product and purchase made just before the transaction itself.
It is the first thing many people do when they feel sad, or are just plain bored.
This has many consequences on the long term, many of them financial, but the gravest of them consists of losing self-awareness and the mechanisms that prevent us from doing this.
Self-control involves the ability to break bad habits and resist the temptations that offer short-term gratification in favor of constraint and long-term thinking.
Impulse buying falls into the ‘’short-term gratification’’ category and, while it does offer some temporary satisfaction, it affects the overall quality of life.
Therefore, it is obvious why controlling our dispositions improves financial well being – the more control you have over your emotions, the less likely you will be to make a financial decisions that will affect your ability to make rent, buy quality food or save for retirement.
2.It Prevents Impulsive Habits Like Binge Drinking And Compulsive Lying
What is binge drinking
Binge drinking, unlike social drinking, involves consuming large quantities of alcohol in an extended period of time with the sole purpose of getting intoxicated.
Life and Health Impact
It is often associated and leads to a poor financial situation, social harm as well as the risk of developing various immune, hematologic, gastrointestinal, neurologic, cardiac and musculo-skeletal diseases.
The causes are diverse, but one of them is the idea that alcohol is an efficient coping mechanism, which eventually leads to the development of alcoholism.
This, in turn, can lead the person on the path of compulsive lying, which can have harsh effects on family and peers.
This is why controlling our dispositions is important – letting emotions getting the better of us instead of tackling them in a mature and healthy way can trigger a vicious cycle that is very hard to escape.
You drink and lie because you are stressed, sad and bored, and once it does not work, you drink more in the hopes that the situation will get better.
But obviously, this is not a wise idea because all you will do is perpetuate the issues instead of getting to the bottom of them and finding the root cause.
3.Controlling Your Disposition Puts Things Into Perspective
Life can sometimes be very overwhelming.
We are all human and after all, with our quirks, complexities and frustrations – it is healthy to let them out occasionally.
But that does not mean allowing them to consume us totally!
Disposition and impulse control involves putting things into perspective – applying a selection filter on our lives, and deciding which things are worth stressing about, and which of them are not.
More often than not, we tend to worry about things that we have no control over.
This is not only infuriating and futile but can incentivize us to form a distorted opinion of the world.
We become unnecessarily cynical and pessimistic, which in turn affects our overall ability to lead happy and fulfilling lives.
Focus on the things that you can do, that are within your control!
Moreover, excessively stressing about events that are out of your control can lead to various mental diseases.
Thanks to science, we know more about borderline schizophrenia and its link to stressful and tension-filled lifestyles.
People who learned how to control their emotions, managed to stave off its effects and improve the quality of their lives as a result.
Finally, try to differentiate between problem-solving and ruminating (going over a thought or a problem without completion).
Replaying the events of a past catastrophic situation is not healthy.
If you find yourself seeking solutions, balancing pros and cons and putting together future preventive measures, that is the way to go because you are doing something productive.
4.Improves Decision Making Capacity
Every day, we are forced to make dozens of decisions and choices, some important that will have long term consequences like changing jobs or renovating the house, or mundane, like what food to pick up for dinner.
But no matter the gravity of these decisions, it is natural to feel a little overwhelmed.
Exercising disposition and impulse control not only improves the decision making process, but it will also simplify it.
Training our minds to automatically run on simple processes based on pragmatic and practical solution-finding, will keep you away from the psychological burden that comes together with over analyzing every single aspect of an issue.
The modern age is filled with tiny inconveniences that makes impulse and disposition control very hard to pull off.
But, as it turns out, we have more to gain from exercising control and self-restraint than letting emotions get the better of us.
Disposition control improves the capacity to make decisions and financial well-being and helps us lead happier and fulfilling lives by putting things into perspective.
Can you do it?
Alex Moore is a psychology undergraduate and healthy living enthusiast. Through his articles he tries to help people understand how mental and physical health interact and how that relationship can benefit you. You can find his work on his Twitter and Facebook accounts.
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